Q. I’m already feeling low and have heard counselling can be upsetting. What if I end up feeling worse than I do now?

Counselling can bring about realisations that may be upsetting.  In most cases, working through such realisations with the counsellor is beneficial as it helps give you a better understanding of yourself and who you are.  This can help you make different decisions or choices if you wish in the future.  I would discuss this aspect of counselling with you in the assessment session.

Q. I’m not very good at talking about my feelings, so how will counselling benefit me?

This is a common question so you are definitely not alone.  Speaking to someone who won’t judge, is impartial and is not involved in the situation, can all help to make it easier to talk about your thoughts and feelings.  Counselling and psychotherapy can help you get more in touch with your feelings and I offer a range of methods to help if you find it difficult to express your feelings.  Also, counselling isn’t just about feelings, its about behaviour and thoughts as well, so I won’t simply focus on your feelings.

Q. My family/friends say I need counselling but I don’t think I do, so what’s the point?

If you are not ready to fully engage in counselling or believe it necessary, it is unlikely that you will gain much benefit.  If you are only going to please someone or stop them suggesting you have therapy, you could in fact end up resenting the sessions.  However, if you are unsure, it may be worth attending an assessment session – you may be surprised at how you feel once you have met me.

Q. I’m taking medication, can I still have therapy?

It depends on the medication and quantity.  Most medication would not stop therapy being affective but this would be discussed in the assessment session.

Q. My family/friends don’t understand my situation, so how will a counsellor be different?

As a counsellor, my training, knowledge and experience provides me with a different perspective to friends and family.  Your sessions offer you the opportunity to talk about and explore whatever you chose to bring to the session, in a safe, confidential and non-judgemental environment.

Q. I can’t even tell my closest friends and family what’s happening for me so how can I tell a stranger?

I understand that it can feel strange, difficult and even disloyal to be sharing personal thoughts, feelings and experiences with someone you don’t know.  I can help you overcome your concerns but ultimately, what you share, how much and when is down to you.   Its worth remembering that speaking to someone in confidence, who is non-judgemental and impartial can make it easier to talk and of course, I am specifically trained to help and support you through your difficult time.  I will not advise what you should do but encourage you to find your own answers.